How to become a foster or adoptive parent in Virginia

Children in Foster care need to find families in Virginia

How do I Become a Foster Parent?

Understanding How to Become a Foster Parent is so Important.

The foster care system desperately needs loving, caring, and safe individuals to become foster parents. There were 5,500 children in the Virginia Department of Social Services (VDSS) foster care in 2025. These children are seeking a nurturing home that you can offer.

Foster children have been through trauma. They've been removed from their birth parents due to abuse or neglect. This can lead to a high level of post-traumatic stress in children and youth, similar to a soldier returning from a combat zone. Though the process of foster care and adoption can be challenging, you will help these children heal their fragile and broken hearts.

How to become a foster or adoptive parent

Find a Child Placing Agency

The first step to becoming a foster parent is to find a licensed Child-Placing Agency (CPA). In Virginia, these agencies are licensed and regulated by the DSS to help you through the training and legal process. They are responsible for recruiting, training, and matching aspiring foster parents with children who need a loving foster home.

So what should you look for in a child-placing agency?

Some agencies have different values from others. This includes a focus on religion or being open to same-sex couples and single parents. It's crucial to align your belief systems with those of the agency. However, once you receive your foster child, you aren't allowed to press your beliefs upon them according to the law in the United States.

After you have selected your agency, you must be the one to make the initial contact. With our parent agency, Extra Special Parents, you will be connected with a Foster Parent Advocate whose job is to ensure this is a good match for you. They are responsible for educating you and answering your questions about foster care in the state of Virginia.

Regardless of the agency, there should be no pressure to become something you're not ready to be from the first point of contact. You will be prepared in your time, not ours.

Training

Following your conversation with your Foster Parent Advocate, you will be offered dates for training. Attending a large class is recommended. You will be able to interact with other families who are going through the same process you are. This can quickly become a support group of fellow foster families.

Although each CPA will conduct training differently, the average time it takes to complete is five evenings or three weekends. This training is educational and designed to challenge your thinking around trauma. Children in foster care did not have the choice to be in the system, and they want to find stability in their lives as soon as possible. This training will ensure you are the best solution for them.

Home Study

The next step in the foster care process is called a Home Study. An agent from your CPA will visit your home a few times to ensure it is a safe environment for the child.

You will also be asked about the following:

Which child do you feel you can cope with in regard to their age, level of need, and medical situation
If you wish to help sibling groups or singles
Where and how your guns and medications are stored
About twenty-two more pages about you!

We are not trying to change your home; we want to ensure your home is safe and welcoming for the child who will be arriving soon.

A background check will also be conducted. A criminal record doesn't prevent you from being a foster parent. Still, the law is particular about what types of past behaviors will bar you from fulfilling this significant role.

See the blog on this site for more details about what will prevent you from becoming a foster parent.

Caring For Your Child

Following the Home Study, all this information is gathered into a single document that will be presented to DSS foster care workers. They will know about your home, your strengths and skills, and the type of child you are looking for.

Your journey to becoming a foster parent in Virginia will be as unique as you are. Thank you from all the 5500 children in Virginia foster care tonight.