Disney's "Safety" and how it relates to child welfare in VA

Disney's movie Safety can show how kinship care is vital in Virginia

Disney's movie Safety how Kinship care is vital in Virginia

From the Disney synopsis, this film “is a drama inspired by the empowering story of former Clemson University safety Ray McElrathbey, a young man facing a series of challenging circumstances, whose dedication and persistence to help him to triumph over repeated adversities. Aided by his teammates and the Clemson community, he succeeds on the field while simultaneously raising and caring for his 11-year-old brother Fahmarr.”

This account of Ray McElrathbey’s life may be fictionalized, but the child welfare system’s film themes and what youth involved in it may experience are relevant in our society. 

While watching the movie, the viewer sees Ray, a college student, gain temporary, then permanent custody of his younger brother, Fahmarr. Ray learns that Fahmarr has been left without proper supervision after their mother is arrested and enters a drug rehabilitation program due to struggles with drug addiction. Unfortunately, this is not an uncommon scenario for many youth across the country and in Virginia’s Commonwealth. According to the Virginia Department of Social Services, as of January 1, 2021, 30% of youth in foster care in Virginia were in foster care due to parental substance use, with more potentially in care due to consequences of substance abuse, such as neglect.

Upon the brothers learning that their mother has entered a drug rehabilitation program, leaving Fahmarr without his only guardian, the Department of Social Services determines that Fahmarr will be placed in a foster home. Rather than let brother go into foster care, Ray asks if the family would be able to take him. Ray volunteers. This scene mirrors what happens with many youth who enter foster care on an “emergency” basis (emergency meaning there was little to no preparation for the possibility for a youth to enter care). Before youth formally enter foster care, the Department of Social Services will ask the parents/guardians if there are any family members or close friends who would take custody of a youth. 

When it comes to portraying youth who are involved with the child welfare system, the movie highlights some experiences that many youth face: 

Parentification

Ray ultimately becomes Fahmarr’s guardian, as he is over the age of 18 when Fahmarr becomes intertwined with the child welfare system. Often, when youth enter care together, the eldest had already begun to take on the role of protector and provider, forsaking their own needs for their younger siblings. 

School disciplinary issues

We see Fahmarr getting in trouble at school often during the course of the movie. While schools are a major resource for youth, it can be difficult to put 100% percent into the structured school setting (academically or behaviorally) when you are concerned with what’s going on or not getting your basic needs met at home. 

What’s underneath the behavior? In one scene, Fahmarr gets in trouble because he doesn’t wear his gym uniform to class. He goes on to explain that he doesn’t like to store his clothes in a locker because he was concerned about having his money stolen. This was a survival tool for Fahmarr. 

Trust

We watch over and over as Ray needs to figure out who he can trust, often shutting people out or trying to drive people away because up until that point, he’s only had to rely on himself. Eventually, you see Ray and Fahmarr develop natural supports (people in their lives to provide emotional and physical support) that help them thrive. It’s the small actions of giving rides to school, providing babysitting services, and even cooking meals that can help in the most challenging situations. Ray’s teammates, coaches, and the community stepped in to help when he was in need, providing a “village” to ease some of the burden. 

If there was anything I took away from this movie, other than two young men asked to take on more than most of us can imagine at their age and eventually thriving, is that we all need a village to support us in our time of need. 

Disney’s “Safety” can be streamed on Disney Plus. 

Fill out our web form