Top Questions From Aspiring Foster Parents: What To Know
This blog addresses the most frequently asked questions families have before becoming foster parents in Virginia. It covers the realities of fostering babies versus teens, the average length of time children typically stay in care, and the licensing timeline. Readers learn about age and housing requirements, training costs, pets, and the role of Child Placing Agencies versus DSS. It also explains disqualifying factors. With clear answers, it helps families make informed choices and prepares them for the journey of fostering.
What to Know About Being a Foster Parent
Over the past several years, we've recognized that some excellent and commonly asked questions emerge in our first conversations with families who wish to foster in the United States. We've decided to write this blog to help you get the answers you need and make a more informed decision about taking your first steps toward becoming a foster parent.
Can I foster or adopt a baby?
- Many families we speak to have the impression that most children in foster care are three years old and under. The reality is that although some babies may come into care, there are far more teenagers or children under 12 with siblings.
- Just as there is a specific impression about babies in foster care, we also know there is an impression about teens in foster care. Let us reassure you that it is not what you think, and that our team is available 24/7 to provide support with any placement you have in your home.
- You can foster a baby, but not many babies in foster care are fostered or adopted. Most babies do not come without siblings.
How long will the foster child stay in my home?
- On average, children are in foster homes for six to 18 months. Many children will stay in your home for only a few months, as the 18-month average is boosted by the youth who will age out of foster care.
Are there any costs associated with the training sessions and the home study?
- There is no cost to the family for the training sessions or the completion of the home study. It is FREE! This is also for all foster-to-adoptive families. Adoptive parents have the same journey as foster families to become licensed.
How long does the certification process typically take to complete?
- Families typically complete the process within 90 to 120 days. Some families complete this process much quicker; however, some may take longer.
Is there an age requirement to foster?
- Foster parents must be at least 21 years of age. Many agencies have an internal policy about the age at which they will train.
Do I have to own my own home to be a foster parent?
- Foster parents can reside in homes they own or rent, including apartments, condominiums, townhomes, duplexes, and other similar accommodations. However, the space intended for the foster child should allow for privacy, such as a bedroom to themselves.
I live in subsidized housing; could I still become a licensed foster parent?
- Individuals receiving government assistance (i.e., TANF or food stamps, Section 8, or HUD housing) are not eligible to foster. Child support or Alimony cannot be counted as income. Dependence on these sources of funds is not considered a measure of financial stability.
I have pets; will that be a problem?
- Having pets does not prevent you from fostering; they can be an asset to a foster family. However, every animal is different, and your pets will be assessed as part of the process of becoming a foster parent, considering factors such as their temperament and behavior. Licenses and vaccinations may be required as well in some localities.
Do I have to be married to be a foster parent?
- All families, including those with single parents and two-parent homes of all races, religions, cultures, and sexual orientations, are welcome to apply.
Does my spouse/live-in partner have to train? Do we have to train at the same time?
- Your spouse/live-in partner does have to complete the training modules. However, training modules can be completed at different times. You will be licensed once both parents have completed all the required training and licensing.
I will be unable to attend one of the training sessions; how will I be able to make up the training?
- After our monthly sessions, makeup training sessions are occasionally offered. However, missed training sessions can also be made up during the sessions scheduled in the next month.
What is the difference between the Local CHILD-PLACING Agency and the Local Department of Social Services?
- Many people are familiar with foster care, but few are aware of the public and private agencies that serve foster families. A private foster care agency, also known as a Child Placement Agency (CPA), is licensed by the state to provide services in conjunction with the state's Department of Social Services (DSS). Private agencies can place children with families they have approved. In contrast, the local DSS can only place children in the district/locality they serve.
What would disqualify me from becoming a foster parent?
Five factors could be considered disqualifiers for becoming a licensed foster parent:
- The applicant does not meet the required training, experience, or family income regulations.
- The applicant or any person in the household is unsuitable for providing safe and appropriate care.
- The applicant's home is unsafe or inadequate to meet the needs of the children in care.
- The applicant is found to have provided false or misleading information to the Child Placing Agency (CPA).
- The applicant or any household member has a criminal conviction that could put children at risk of harm.
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